Happy New Year to all my fans and followers - hope your celebrations were joyful and have left you feeling positive about whatever 2016 might hold for you.
As many of you know, when I'm not being a muso, one of my other pursuits is as a life coach. I'm continually looking at the fascinating processes and pitfalls people face in pursuing their passions, purpose and the deep yearnings they feel.
This time of year is full of such musings, as well wonder what we might change, start, end and develop over the course of a new year.
I recently heard an interview with Steven Pressfield, celebrated author of many works, including "The Legend of Bagger Vance" and the very popular-with-creatives book The War of Art. Pressfield was a writer for 17 years before getting his first paycheck as a writer. The man knows how to push forward when external validation is hard to find!!
I very much liked Pressfield's interview and he said something that grabbed my little life coach's attention.
As a PhD is avoidance and self sabotage in my creative endeavours, and being someone who LOVES to analyse the why's and deep motivations behind such behaviours, this particularly resonated with me. It turns the negativity of creative avoidance and blockage on it's head, creating a positive story around this previously negative narrative.
What if the strength and power within our resistance is correlative to the greatness of the idea we're avoiding starting, developing or finishing?
No wonder we're scared and find anything else worth doing. Power is scary, strength and potency is scary. I liken it to driving a small, very average car versus an incredibly powerful racing car. The sheer power available to you in the racing car means the ability to lose control and crash in a massive ball of flames is so, so much higher, that when we drive a small and power-lacking car. The potential for damage is much less.
In our creative endeavours, the damage we have the potential to generate is damage to ourselves, our sense of our own talent and abilities, our public persona and reputation....these things can catalyze into a deep fear that wants to avoid the potential for that kind of pain and suffering at all costs.
So, life coach Naomi, want's the solution?
Well, for me, knowing, as Pressfield points out, that without a great idea, there would be no resistance, changes the story I'm telling myself. This is no longer a blind fear I have no ability to tackle. It's an understandable fear that exists because, on some deep level, I know I have a great idea, a great creative power. And when I think about how it feels to have great creative ideas and power, the fear turns to excitement, I start to get the urge to climb the mountain and turn the idea into substance. I put on my hiking boots and tie back my hair - I've got work to do. And I love it.
And so, as we begin another year, I hope you are considering creative endeavours of your own, I hope you are fearful and avoidant at the thought and I hope this turns that fear and avoidance on its head.
I would love to hear your story - do you experience resistance? Does this idea of it being related to the greatness of the idea resonate with you?