So, a slow re-entry into the year kinda goes without saying for me, with a few weeks of January spent on vacation, before really starting the process of dreaming up what I want the year to contain. And each year I get closer to how I want that process to feel. This year, I have been greatly influenced by the work of Danielle LaPorte, in dreaming up what you desire to feel, rather than what you desire to do, have or achieve. Revolutionary - check out her resources for this here.
I've been thinking though this thought - maybe there's a really good purpose in taking the whole of January to brew and percolate yourself into the right consistency, before pouring yourself into the year.
Here's where it's taken me.
Being in the Southern Hemisphere, we tend to have very relaxed entries into the new year, after what is, for most Australian's, a rather over-alcoholised New Year's Eve. It's mid-Summer, school is on long summer vacation and more and more workplaces are shutting down between Christmas and the first Monday of January, which gives the whole place a great, vacation vibe. And most people I know take at least another week off before returning to work....if not several.
So we're naturally going to be easing gently into the year. And this becomes really interesting when you think about how the start of a new year, whether you're a resolution and goal writer or not, is always a bit of a what am I doing/aiming for/wanting in life kinda time. Having a natural vacation vibe happening when you're thinking about this is really helpful.
Mostly, I find that being on vacation, while mulling over where I want my year to go, leads me to determine (just call me Freud, with insights on the human psyche like this one) that I would like my year to feel like a vacation....all year.....every day.
Laughing? Identifying? Cynically rolling your eyes and saying “yeah, and you better duck your head so that flying pig wont hit you"?
But I am no longer jumping to the conclusion that such a dream is only for kept trophy wives of multi-gazzillionaires. No!
When I am on vacation, mostly I am feeling relaxed, rested, un-time pressured and more spontaneous. I have energy to do things like clear out the garage and clean the house. But I only do those things until I feel a little tired. Then I stop and have a nap. Or read a book. Or have a snack.
And most of all, living like this makes me happy.
I like being happy. Happy feels good.
Which begs the question, if the vibe of vacations makes me happy, and I get that happy feeling by being relaxed and rested, non time-pressured and more spontaneous.....what's really stopping me living like that, and instead, living like a crazy, over-scheduled, work-driven, under-slept person? Does my life really require all that non-vacation vibe activity?
What would it be like to simply say that Sundays are vacation days, not to be sullied with anything that an average vacation day wouldn't contain? Might it be possible to work a little less and “vacation" a little more during the week - do I really need to earn that much more, if what makes me truly happy is not money or what it can buy, but time, ease, peace, space?
What's really stopping me bringing a vacation mindset back to daily life?
This has been under-scoring my thoughts around what I want for 2015. More time and space, more freedom and peace, less stress, rushed busy living, less exhaustion, less pressure or expectation.
And so far, I'm having better weeks and poorer weeks, sticking to this. But I'm loving it when it works. And the more it works, the more I'm doing it - taking time, sitting, being present and doing nothing much.
Little moments of vacation. Perfect.
So tell me, what are you aiming for in 2015? Do you have tips on creating a vacation vibe in your day-to-day life? I'd love to hear them - write a comment below!